The Art of Grieving and Its Importance
When a loved one dies, it feels as if an essential part of you has been torn away, as if the world has stopped. Illusions of control, security and invulnerability are shattered, leaving you with a sense that things will never return to normal – and they may never will. Depending on how close you were to the deceased, the grieving process may very well continue until your later years in life.
However, grief doesn’t exclude the possibility of peace and happiness. In fact, grieving is an essential part of healing. Likewise, peace does not mean the end of grief. It is possible to live life to the fullest while also remembering and feeling sorrow for someone’s absence.
Of course, everyone’s journey with grief is different, and you will have to face your own unique trials before you are able to find peace. However, you can find comfort and support in these universal lessons shared by those who’ve also lost a loved one:
- There is no right way of grieving. Don’t second guess your thoughts, feelings and actions. Don’t actively suppress your emotions and don’t force emotions either. Just feel, think, say and do whatever it is you need to heal.
- Open up about your feelings, but only when you’re ready. If you need to take time alone and away from friends and family to process your emotions, do so. It’s not selfish, it’s not inconsiderate – you have to look out for yourself, after all. Once you feel ready to talk – whether it’s to a friend, family member, professional therapist or even a complete stranger – don’t hold yourself back. It’s not a sign of weakness to be completely open and honest about your feelings, but one of strength.
- Don’t be afraid to fall apart. Since you’re experiencing the lowest of possible lows, nobody with an ounce of empathy will hold it against you for struggling with pain, confusion and daily life in general. With that being said, stay away from all alcohol and drugs. They may temporarily mask the pain you’re feeling, but this will only serve to delay the healing process.
- Start crossing off your bucket list. Losing a loved one is a perspective-shifting event that makes you realize just how precious life really is. Use your newfound strength and wisdom to start building towards your goals, and make your dreams become a reality. Your loved one wouldn’t want it any other way.
- Know that you carry your loved one’s legacy. The reason why your loved one’s passing has been so devastating is because they made a huge impact on your life. Cherish the good times you had with them and keep the lessons they taught you to heart. They will always remain with you in spirit.
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